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The Theory of Social Validation

In Uncategorized on May 5, 2010 at 7:27 pm

I recently listened to an episode of Psych Files, a pod-cast created by psychologist Michael Britt. His guest, Susan Weinschenk, Ph.D., was discussing her book Neuro Web Design and more specifically how our brains operate when we look at web pages.

At one point they began to discuss Amazon.com and Britt mentioned how quickly we evaluate the worth of a book based upon the reviews of other customers. Weinschenk had a very interesting response. She referenced Robert Chialdini’s ideas on social proof (theory of social validation) and stated:

“When we are uncertain about what to do we will look to other people to guide us. And we do this automatically and unconsciously.”

Of course this is not a new concept and I’m sure most users of the Internet use others’ judgments to help them in making certain choices. I learned a long time ago that I could waste a lot of time and in some cases money if I ignored recommendations by fellow consumers on sites such as Netflix, Amazon and iTunes.

But let’s go beyond the Internet, how often do we apply this principle to our own lives? How often do we try to influence the opinions that people make about us or the things we do that depend on others’ recognition of us for success? No matter the field, if we look to progress, we have to depend on people to say we are not only capable, but the exact person to fulfill a need. To go a step further, we need gatekeepers to say this.

Hence, no matter how long we have studied, practiced or otherwise prepared, if we haven’t received the proper social validation we may be just spinning our wheels. A great example of this can be found in the recounting of events by Michael Jordan. In his 2009 acceptance speech, for induction into the (Naismith Memorial) Hall of Fame, Jordan relayed that as a freshman at UNC, his coach Dean Smith was featured in Sports Illustrated. In the interview, Smith listed only four starters on the team and neglected to mention him. Jordan was livid and said that this fueled his desire to demonstrate to Smith and others how great a player he was. Jordan also stated that this need for acknowledgement (read validation) fueled him throughout his college and NBA years. Michael Jordan knew he was a great player, but he also knew the benefits of being recognized as a great player. He wanted and needed both.

In the final analysis, sometimes we have done enough; we are more than ready and need no further skills to make it to the next level. We just need to make sure the right people know this and that they signal to others that it’s safe to jump on the bandwagon. That signal may be all that’s needed to make things happen!

Bakari Akil II, Ph.D. is the author of Pop Psychology: The Psychology of Everyday Life! You can also check out his page on Twitter.

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Rewire your Brain

In Brain, Neurons, Psychology of Success, Success, Uncategorized on June 18, 2009 at 3:05 pm

 

By Bakari Akil II, Ph.D. 

 

Understanding the brain can provide another approach to how we can achieve success. In the book, “Brain Rules,” John Medina, a molecular biologist, provides fascinating explanations detailing how our brains work. He discusses the way we learn, how what we learn is processed and how that process leads to us becoming very unique individuals.

 

According to Medina, when we perform an activity we have neurons in our brain that pass along information through synaptic clefts (imagine a waterway) to other neurons. As we continue to do the same type of activities these connections become stronger. These neurons split at the ends and form new connections and each time you repeat an activity it becomes easier the next time you try. The brain creates neural pathways to assist you in your tasks.

 

Whether it is a motor skill or memory recall, repetition is the key. It leads to a more complete and thorough brain wiring. Therefore, if we want to be excellent at something, we have to do a few key things for our brains to cooperate. Those things are:

 

Perform the action properly

Perform it many times; and

Perform the action regularly

 

We can literally wire our brains for success. When looking at achievement in this way, excelling becomes a matter of learning something right the first time, practicing religiously and keeping it up after a level of excellence is achieved. 

 

Need a playbook for success, a game changer? Then purchase Dr. Akil’s new book SUPER YOU! 101 Ways to Maximize your Potential on Amazon or Lulu. You can also download a free chapter on your Kindle or iPhone at Amazon.